It started like a fairy tale, just short of ‘once upon a time’. They gave their lives and dreams to each other, smiled one another’s smile and cried each other’s tears. They had come a long way, walking together, sometimes one ahead of another, but together nonetheless. And now all that is left of the tale is an awkward silence. Silence that gnaws inside.
They stand side by side not looking at each other. He seems to be examining his feet very closely and she finds the poster on the latest Mobile Handset very informative all of a sudden. Two people who’ve not only lost each other but a little bit of themselves in the process. Staying in love is so much harder than falling in love, because we stop being friends.
Liv Ullmann (Scandinavian actress) writes that when she divorced her first husband, they sat holding hands under the table while they signed their separation papers. She says they divorced because they were 'good friends'...! Do we need more than that in a relationship??
I have a lot of broken relationships around me right now. Either completely tattered or on the verge of. A common thing between all these relationships is that there is no love involved anymore! How is it that something that we live and love becomes 'once upon a time'? YOU become once upon a time?! Strange...strange relationships and strange we who make them. It amazes me sometimes, this ability of ours to attach and then disconnect from people, the things we ‘need’ and those we ‘want’. We are selfish, all of us. More in love with the feeling of being in love itself than with the person. We can’t do without the one we love because we ‘need’ and ‘want’ to be loved. We ‘need’ to be ‘wanted’. Someone once told me – loving should have nothing to do with the person you love; it's none of his business. ‘Love me for a reason and let the reason be Love’
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